Why men date other marrieds?
Chat about a loaded subject that no one wants to speak about, that’s it. Funny thing, affairs have been going on from the beginning of the world. Extramarital relationships can be fraught with troubles, cause sadness, and other harms. Also you must wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety matter, money, age dissimilarity, faith education, shame, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I will identify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, dating married woman.
Why do women have affairs? There are as many answers as there are seek an extramarital affair. I am conserned mainly though it is just the human nature, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a few explanations I have run across.
Biologically we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and exciting, and sex makes us escape the world for a short period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Some people can switch the desire on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another human being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos people has erected against married dating. For lots of people the yearnings will overcome their fears and make them risk the rage of not only their relatives, but society too. So why, what is the mechanism?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is horribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not wound your relatives or anybody else? You will need to lessen the risk you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the biggest grouping, enormous in fact. There are many couples whose marriage is over, apart from they feel happy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to consider. Your assets are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them completing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An extra-marital affair sometimes solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a regular reason I fear. One or the other, usually the gentleman is sexually neglecting his spouse for a large humber of reasons. As a man I truly am thankful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them obtainable to us males of romance, making them “milf wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, could be compassion is gone, could be it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Maybe we have simply developed distantly, our relulas interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is opposite of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they look for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for financial gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.